Looking for the Answers

Hello ladies and gentlemen! I am back. I apologize for all loyal readers. I had tried to post 3 really cool video posts (with graphics and everything) yet they failed to post, for a reason I am uncertain. I have created two new websites and been things have been generally crazy at the business! Bad economy what? I leave you with my homecoming post.

Why does it seem that whenever we are struggling to find the answers to our problems and difficulties in life we seem to bring about either:

1. More problems and difficulties of greater significance.
2. A different type of problem of difficulty

How many times has worrying about a particular issue or problem actually increased the difficulty of the problem? More often we actually replace a specific problem or difficulty with an entirely different issue to be upset about. Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and getting the same results.”

We must then trace our results back to their source. The answers we seek or shall I say the cause of our most demoralizing failures is a result of looking for different effects among effects. However, many fail to see the actual cause of the situations they find themselves in. If you can begin to understand and change the CAUSE of the situations present in your life you can at once begin to take control change the effects.

Our current situations are mostly the result of our habitual mindset. The subconscious motives that dominate our lives tend to reoccur and repeat themselves. Many of us have been programmed to think in a specific way from a very young age, engaging in all kinds of limiting self-beliefs and negative states of mind. These patterns can become very destructive. Unfortunately, the programming of negative states of mind is not voluntary.

Our error comes from looking on the outside for these answers. Trace back the steps any material object or manifestation to its essential cause. You will find that all originate from one source. This ONE source is a spiritual source and the source of all power. It is not presently my purpose to describe this source, however, the earnest student of the mind will find that our means of interacting with the source comes from our ability and free will to think.

Therefore, when searching for our answers let us first examine our habitual modes of thinking. This is where our will power will play an important role. It is not our will power’s job to make our desire come about by playing with different effects, but to change our method of thinking. The answer you already know, you just have to convince yourself of this.

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The Illusion Of Confidence

The audience’s deafening applause made Joe’s palms sweat. He hadn’t been that nervous since the time he had to tell his girl friend’s (and now wife) father that she was pregnant, or since he had to kick the game winning field goal in his high school game. He knew this because it was the last time his abdomen twitched simultaneously with his right eyelid. Slowly, he closed his eyes, took a deep breath and went out to tell deliver his first line. That night at the “improv”, in front of the largest audience yet, Joe gave the best performance he knew how. At one time Joe would have been considered the timid fellow scared of his own shadow. However, this was before he mastered the Illusion of Confidence.

Interestingly enough, we rarely consider ourselves “confidence” in a given situation. Mostly, we measure some level of un-confidence. When we are participating in activities in which one might explain us as confidence, everything seems to FLOW very naturally and our confidence is, indeed, – effortless.

If you are by yourself, you can neither be confident or un-confident. Your level of so-called “confidence” is completely neutral. Therefore, we may deduce that confidence, in reality, is based upon other people’s perception.

The example of Joe shows us that many different situations in life will be faced and all will greet us with a certain amount of uncertainty. Our level of confidence that others perceive in us, however, does not have to vary. Even in a situation in which we may feel very unsure of ourselves, rest assured the confidence we display is not a reflection of how unsure you feel, but of how unsure you are perceived. The outcome is fairly negligible. Most others do not care if you win, lose, make a fool of yourself, or look great as long as it doesn’t make them feel uncomfortable.

Take this with you. Confidence is an illusion. Try even faking your confidence if you feel any fear or uncertainty in a given situation. You will find, soon your “faking” will turn into your effortless reality. With many holiday gatherings and possible encounters with odd family members you can have a great time practicing your skills of illusion!

Happy Holidays to all and thank you for reading Living Infinitely.

[The Illusion of Confidence]

Bailout, Election, and Social Revolution

We live in tumultuous times. The government of our fine country calls for a financial bailout (or rescue) package, the coming election promises change to the nation, and the world sits on the edge of their seat in anticipation. The consequences are not limited to the United States of America as the world economy hangs in the balance as well. The emotions of the world teeter on a thread. Americans are losing their homes, their jobs, and their peace of mind. The world calls for a new ways of commerce, human interaction, and peace. The revolution has begun; the world may never be the same!

The social revolution I speak of is the beginning of a new value proposition that individuals, corporations, and even governmental bodies must embrace. Now more than ever we must come together and realize that money is nothing but innate matter! True commerce exists in the exchanging of value, or the conversion of raw materials, thereby adding value. The world is in a state that we must change our idea of what we think as valuable.

Values the New Revolution must embrace:

1. Honesty: In our world of commerce honest is not valued. In fact many successful companies acquire great wealth based upon lies and deception. Much of the current financial situation we are in is based upon lack of honest and forthright information traded between companies and organizations. Our value proposition needs to change from admiring the businesses’ shrewd in deceit, to admiring the most honest and reliable companies. Truth and honesty ensure freedom.

2. Wisdom: In the space age of technology information becomes supreme. However, without wisdom to evaluate and disseminate the information, that information can become a dangerous weapon. Our society has lost respect for our elders, the unchanging principles that guide commerce, and the virtue of patience. Only by a change in values will we be able to transform our information into wisdom.

3. Spiritual Power: Unity comes through recognition of the Spirit. Our modern day and age has found itself with a new found interest in spirituality. The fuel to this spiritual fire will only grow as men and women once again begin to understand the bond power behind all things. Individual power, corporate power, and organizational power can only be individualized through the recognition of the universal.

4. Faith: “Faith is the element which transforms the ordinary vibration of thought created by the finite mind of man, into the spiritual equivalent (Napoleon Hill).” Our society has lost the value of what faith means. Religious organizations have long told us to have faith, but do not instruct us on how to do so. Dr. Hill here explains that faith is combined with our thoughts in a powerful collaboration that imbues us with spiritual power. Our society must become one that values statements of faith, thoughts imbued with faith, and individuals strengthen by their great unwavering faith.

Beautiful symbolic picture by Wallyg

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The Receiving Station

Being the proud owner of a cellular phone store I happen to be overly interested in obscure things like radio signals. Radio signals enable us to communicate from across the globe. I often spend my days on cell phones communicating with businesses and friends on the other side of the nation. Amazing! These invisible signals travel across entire nation to communicate with another human being. The power of these man-made electronic devices is astounding as they are able to transmit and receive invisible waves of information beyond our immediate comprehension. Imagine now, how much more powerful our brain can be.

Often in Living Infinitely, we look at the transmitting side of the brain. The thoughts, which subsequently become actions, we transmit into the world become our reality. The power of thought is infinitely more powerful than the cell phone. The very cell phone we speak of is a product of thought. Today however, we will discuss the receiving station of our brain.

Just like a cell phone our brain is constantly transmitting and receiving signals. The thoughts that we constantly think about are what we become. The famous saying from the Old Testament says, “As a Man Thinketh so He is.” There is no doubt the dominating thoughts of an individual shape the destiny and future of that individual. However, it is equally true that the brain acts as a receiving station.

The thoughts that we are constantly fed are accepted by the subconscious mind as fact. We live our lives largely based upon what has already been established by this part of the mind. The result of this can be readily observed in children from different families. Many a broken child has been created by parents constantly telling their children they are not good enough, smart enough, too fat, too skinny, and a host of other negative seeds constantly planted into the brain.

Powerful transmitters include music, television, books, blogs, and friends. Pay attention to the images, sounds, and emotions that are being transmitted to you. The constant bombardment of other thoughts making their way into your brain is not to be taken lightly! These images, sounds, and emotions make their way unnoticed into the automatic processes in the brain. The invisible soldiers make their way into your mind and march through your brain, gradually setting up camp and surrounding your actions. This army can serve as a tremendous asset and be a devastating foe.

What are you feeding your mind?

Beautiful image thanks to Yanning Van deWouwer

[The Receiving Station]

Bring the Soul to Work Day

I was going to entitle this article Being Spiritual At Work. However, I decided against it as it rather impossible to “be spiritual.” You always are spiritual! Trying to be spiritual would be like trying to fall asleep, or trying to meditate, it just happens – the harder you “try” the more elusive it will be. However, that being said, we can prepare our minds and allow the awareness of our spirit to guide us through the day, even a hectic workday.

If all of us lived on a mountaintop with nothing to do but meditate all day we would not need to remind ourselves of these principles. However, if you’re like me, you go to work, have a job, sit in traffic, and interact with a great variety of people. These interactions can tend to draw us away from reality into a sort of hypnotic state we mistake for reality. The following are three tips on how you can live from the level of the soul (even in bumper to bumper traffic).


The Principle of 10. Imagine a very stressful problem comes up at work. I am sure many of you have encountered situations in which the parties involved feel that the world is coming to an end because of this ordeal. Some people live their lives believing the most trivial of matters are the very end of their well being. When these situations occur remember the principle of 10.

10 minutes: The temporary problem may get worse – and stress level may begin to climax

10 hours: The issue will most likely start to dissolve- unless it’s a very big temporary problem

10 days: Most issues with the exception of major life events will have diminished in the mind

10 Month: Ten months in our society is ancient history. Scientists state we actually regenerate the majority of the cells in our body in about eleven months time.

10 Years: How much is this problem going to affect you in ten years?

100 Years: Your life is full of good decisions and bad ones, most people think back and say I shouldn’t have worried so much.

10,000 Years: At this level our current problems seem very small. Yet if we were traveling to the other side of the universe at the speed of light we would not have left our solar system.


Star in Your Own Movie. The human being is the only creature that is able to be aware of his or her own presence. This awareness keeps us in touch with the Infinite. Imagine a camera in the corner of your office or workspace. Watch yourself as you are watching a movie. Observe the way you act, communicate, carry yourself, and even how you think about situations. This exercise will enable you to recognize your conditioned thinking and empower you to live your ideals.

Break for Breath. The benefits of taking a deep breath periodically throughout the day are countless. Taking a deep breath has been shown to reduce stress, tension, assist communication, and increase performance. Most of all it will help you become aware of the soul that exists that is all that truly exists. The temporal lives we conduct and problems we encounter in them are not nearly as significant as the truth of your Being.

Special thanks to wallyg for that fine image

[Spiritual at Work]

Personal Magnetism the Art of Attractive Presence

Have you ever noticed how some individuals seem to have an invisible aura that surrounds them and makes them irresistible? People want to be around them, do business with them, and even start romantic relationships with them. Invisible magnetic forces seem to give these certain individuals advantages in life. When this power has been developed properly the very presence of these magnetic people can have a calming and relaxing effect on others. There is no denying the fact that personal magnetism exists, but how does one improve their magnetic qualities? The following is a list of what creates this personal magnetism, and how you can improve yours.

Physical Magnetism

Being Tall Helps: Even large statues with great height seem to have some kind of magnetic presence. Tall people seem create this magnetic field because of sheer genetic characteristics.

Improve your Body: One of the most powerful and direct ways of generating irresistible personal magnetism is to get in shape. When both the male and female body types build lean muscle and shed fat, they take on their distinctive shapes creating a powerful attraction. Additionally, being in great shape has been known to help self-confidence and create a powerful magnetic field.

Wardrobe Check: A person displays an image they want to portray to the world everyday when they choose what clothes to wear. Stylish clothes, jewelry, and other physical adornments can have a small effect on the overall magnetic field created by the individual.

Inner Magnetism

Send Out Positive Vibes: This is one of the most powerful tools in creating personal magnetism. Studies have shown that positive people live longer, healthier, and happier lives. When you walk in a room, or walk past another person, smile. Sending out positive vibes to others will project confidence and strength.

Find the Inner Game: Our true selves exist on a deeper level then simply our personality, attributes, and habits. Truly understanding the full potential of our mind and soul is a journey that we must take throughout our life times. Understanding the cause of our magnetism can help us understand our full potential and essentially let that light shine for others to see.

It all Comes Down to Confidence: You may read things about eating certain kinds of fish oils will make you a more magnetic person (and it may). However, the over arcing principle behind all the steps in helping you create personal magnetism is increasing your confidence. Follow each aspect carefully, and think of ways to incorporate them into your life bringing you confidence as you improve on each one. Confidence is a fickle friend. Sometimes doing one small thing, such as wearing an outfit you really think looks good can sky rocket our confidence through the roof. Additionally, confidence compounds itself like interest in the bank. The more confidence you have, the easier it is to build.

[Personal Magnetism]

[Leadership Aura]

The Power of a Name

It is given at birth and typically carried around like a proud personal banner throughout our lives. Men and women pay millions of dollars to see it lavishly displayed on hospital walls or the doorways and park benches of cities. Speak it and you will create the sweetest musical note to the recipient. I speak of the extraordinary power of a person’s NAME.

Part of maximizing YOUR life will inevitably be about enriching the lives of others. When you enrich the lives of others with love and care, you begin to build a network of individuals who will befriend you, love you, and can even bring you an abundance of wealth. I have been the type of person that is “bad with names.” I would meet someone and instantly forget his or her name. At times this habit could be down right embarrassing. I recall being in a situation in which I had to repeatedly call on a customer I was doing a large amount of business with and not being able to remember her name. Each time I would call her on the phone I would once again introduce myself instead of being able to reach out to her and make that vital personal connection. The sale was nearly lost, when the customer eventually said those terrible words we have all heard before, “do you even remember my name?”

Classical theories on motivation have shown that after basic survival needs have been met, one of the greatest human motivators is the need for recognition. People want to feel IMPORTANT! Imagine the network of people you could build if you were able to put your own ego on check and tap into this amazing principle of human behavior. Although not necessarily easy, one of the simplest ways of making people feel important is calling them by their name. To be a great leader, follow the example of great leaders before you like Theodore Roosevelt. His ability to remember names left a lasting impression on an entire nation.

The reason why many of us fail to capture another’s name is that we are very caught up in our own self-consciousness. The ability to comprehend what another individual holds important is an asset of unspeakable value. Here are a few tips to help you recall another’s name.

1. Associate the name with the face. Many of us are able to recall a face, but have trouble putting a name to it. Consciously associate a person’s name to their face, the minute you are introduced.

2. Repeat the name in the conversation. Here is an example. “Great to meet you Bob, what is it that you do Bob?” That may be a little obvious, but people generally don’t notice (they like hearing their name). Here is another example if that is too obvious, “Great to meet you Bob, what is it that you do?” Bob- “Oh, I am an arms dealer.” You – “Oh that’s great Bob, how did you get into that?”

3. Give your full attention to the person. Would you agree with me, that knowing a great amount of people would be a valuable asset? Imagine each person you meet as a possible asset for building wealth (monetary or otherwise) in your life. I realize this next technique may seem a little impersonal, but think of it as a game. If you could know x amount of people by first name, how much would that be worth to you? Imagine each person you meet and remember their name and face is worth five dollars to you. While this may seem ridiculous there is a monetary and social value to every person you meet.

The Secrets of Mind Control

Have you ever wanted to influence the mind of another person in order to persuade them? I don’t recommend doing this for harmful purposes, but it is certainly possible. I will go through a few techniques for you to try out today.

1. The most important fact to realize is that people care most about themselves. Anyone who realizes this will have an advantage on the rest of his or her associates. Most people are so busy thinking about themselves they pay no attention to who is influencing them. Realize others care more about themselves.
2. The second most important fact is that 90% (probably over 90%) of communication is done through nonverbal communication. Picture a nervous student giving a speech. They are self-conscious and entirely consumed with worrying about what others think, while the rest of the audience does not care, they are too busy worrying about themselves as well. Use your body language to display the message you are trying to convey.
3. Use the power of suggestion. Try this. Tell one friend or coworker how good they look three times throughout the day, you will notice them holding themselves better at the end of the day. Tell another friend or coworker that they look like they are getting sick. Tests have shown that after enough suggestions they will actually begin to feel sick (don’t do this one too much). Use suggestions to saturate the subconscious and influence others.
4. Drop clues through your language. If you want someone to get excited, use positive language and words that bring about excitement. Use powerful words for powerful results. Words like money, sex, death, birth, and power have strong connections to the subconscious of others. Direct others thoughts subconsciously by dropping clues through your language.
5. Use the silence to your advantage. People are generally uncomfortable with silence. Given the right moment, silence can be a powerful ally to help create the influence you desire. Give it a try. Next time you are facing a problem with someone, just give them a stare and a confident look, many times they will workout the problem on their own (parents have used this technique for years). Silence can be more powerful than sound.

Give each of these techniques a try. With practice, you will find yourself become a more powerful, attractive, and influential person in the eyes of others.

[Mind Control]

The Leadership Secret

What separates the good leaders from the mediocre? What makes one leader succeed and inspire many to greatness while others continually struggle and fight to achieve any positive results? The difference may surprise you, and even slightly anger some. The difference is often the reason that person is a leader in the first place. I like to call it the leadership conundrum, and if you can rise above it, you will be on your way to greatness.

What do leaders have that followers do not? One they have an inexorable desire to succeed and be at the top of their field. They do not let failure be an option. These individuals are often wise decision makers. They call the shots, command the troops, devise amazing strategies, and often have to pave a difficult path to success. These individuals have goals. They know what their ideal vision looks like and they make progress towards it. Leaders carry a powerful aura around them that propels them further in life and influences other with their simple presence.

With all these amazing qualities, why do some leaders still struggle? They forget to employ their most powerful ally and the leadership secret. Encouragement. A little encouragement goes a long way. A simple heart-felt thank you, great job, or well done coming from an influential person can change lives.

Why do leaders fail to use this simple but extremely effective tool? The most important person in anyone’s life is right in the mirror. This applies to both the leader and the follower; it is inherent in our nature. In many cases, the leaders are so driven by their personal goals and intentions; they often forget about the emotions of others and leave encouragement behind. To be a great leader, one must not only manage personal goals and make themselves succeed, but make others feel as if they could succeed as well. Encouragement will stand the test of time and propel you and your followers to places never thought before. Your job for the week is to look for way to encourage those around you, and when they do something you like, encourage them.

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[Leadership Secret]