Saturday, December 20, 2008

The Illusion Of Confidence

The audience’s deafening applause made Joe’s palms sweat. He hadn’t been that nervous since the time he had to tell his girl friend’s (and now wife) father that she was pregnant, or since he had to kick the game winning field goal in his high school game. He knew this because it was the last time his abdomen twitched simultaneously with his right eyelid. Slowly, he closed his eyes, took a deep breath and went out to tell deliver his first line. That night at the “improv”, in front of the largest audience yet, Joe gave the best performance he knew how. At one time Joe would have been considered the timid fellow scared of his own shadow. However, this was before he mastered the Illusion of Confidence.

Interestingly enough, we rarely consider ourselves “confidence” in a given situation. Mostly, we measure some level of un-confidence. When we are participating in activities in which one might explain us as confidence, everything seems to FLOW very naturally and our confidence is, indeed, – effortless.

If you are by yourself, you can neither be confident or un-confident. Your level of so-called “confidence” is completely neutral. Therefore, we may deduce that confidence, in reality, is based upon other people’s perception.

The example of Joe shows us that many different situations in life will be faced and all will greet us with a certain amount of uncertainty. Our level of confidence that others perceive in us, however, does not have to vary. Even in a situation in which we may feel very unsure of ourselves, rest assured the confidence we display is not a reflection of how unsure you feel, but of how unsure you are perceived. The outcome is fairly negligible. Most others do not care if you win, lose, make a fool of yourself, or look great as long as it doesn’t make them feel uncomfortable.

Take this with you. Confidence is an illusion. Try even faking your confidence if you feel any fear or uncertainty in a given situation. You will find, soon your “faking” will turn into your effortless reality. With many holiday gatherings and possible encounters with odd family members you can have a great time practicing your skills of illusion!

Happy Holidays to all and thank you for reading Living Infinitely.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Subconscious Cruise Control

No matter what field or area of life, when one truly does something well, they make it look EASY. Notice a professional golfer smack a 300 yard drive, a basketball player leap over their opponent for a dunk, an amazing speaker deliver their message, or a Olympic athlete in their given sport. Everything done well is done in a manner that makes it look as if they are performing with ease.

Now lets take the flipside. Imagine a struggling salesperson working every angle to make a sale only to be continually let down, a physically out of shape individual hitting the gym for the first time, or perhaps a nervous schoolteacher giving their first lesson. These individuals may be saying the same words, imitating the exact same actions, and even thinking about the same desired outcome, however, they fail to match the level of performance. While their conscious mind may be prepared for the task, their subconscious system (which regulates the body, works 24 hours a day, balances your steps, and does million other activities at the same time) is not as programmed as the expert.

Playing the piano has blessed me with the knowledge of the working power of the subconscious mind. Any piano player would not be able to consciously understand every note they are playing without the tremendous assistance of the subconscious mind. In fact sometimes it feels like the more you let go and let your subconscious take over, the easier it is!

Therefore, remember this when setting out on your goals. Your method of thinking is the starting point for all achievement. The thoughts and emotions you allow to enter your mind will find their way to your subconscious. The tasks you then embark on will either be filled with ease or burdened with difficulty. Happy Holidays.

Thursday, December 4, 2008

The Fisherman

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